ABOUT US

I'm Dagmar, Your Dating & Relationship Coach

Masters in Curriculum Design and Behavioral Psychology

story behind it....

I never speak until I was 4…

No, I had not any speech disorder.

Because I didn't feel safe enough to use my voice.

There is a story behind it…

I grew up in a PERECT home (materialistically), an accomplished professor father, nice house, good schools. But emotionally? It was a desert. My father was brilliant and successful, but emotionally unreachable. Affection wasn't our language.

Vulnerability wasn't valued.

So I learned early: Performance gets approval. Feelings get dismissed.

I carried a notepad everywhere to communicate because words felt too risky.

Fast forward 30 years, and I'd become exactly what you'd expect: a high-achieving, emotionally unavailable people-pleaser who was choosing partners who couldn't love me well.

I almost married my father. Literally. Same profession (engineer). Same emotional unavailability. Same inability to show up when it mattered.

But nature saved me.

When my engagement ended in 2014, I made a decision that changed my life for good....

I was done repeating this PATTERN.

I spent the next two years doing the hardest work of my life:

12-step programs, intensive therapy, cutting off my family temporarily to figure out who I was, learning attachment theory and nervous system regulation, and practicing Non-Violent Communication until healthy conflict became second nature.

I transformed from someone who couldn't speak at 4 into someone who now teaches others how to communicate in the healthiest relationships of their lives.

That's when I knew: this was my calling.

Not because I read about relationships in a textbook. Because I lived the transformation, from emotionally unavailable to genuinely ready for love.

What I've learned

Through working with 100+ high-achieving professionals (and transforming my own life), I've discovered:

Dating for successful people is an EMOTIONAL AVAILABILITY problem.

If you can't recognize your patterns, communicate your needs without drama, and show up consistently without people-pleasing or shutting down, you'll keep attracting the same type of partner in different packaging.

Smart people are often the WORST at seeing their own patterns.

Recognizing patterns in others isn't something you learn in business school or med school. Which explains why so many intelligent, accomplished professionals are stuck in relationship groundhog day.

You can LEARN to break cycles and attract healthy love FAST.

If you're willing to get uncomfortable, examine your role in the pattern, and do the work to rewire your nervous system and attachment style, you will see massive changes in 6 months or less.

You are not going to become a PERFECT human being.

But you’ll certainly become emotionally available to attract aligned people.

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Who I help

I've helped 100+ clients from every major background (mostly CEOs, entrepreneurs break free from toxic patterns and build the relationships they want.

Many of my clients:

01.

Work in demanding, high-achievement fields

(finance, law, medicine, tech, entrepreneurship) and want their love lives to catch up with their professional success.

02.

Recently exited long-term toxic relationships

or patterns of serial dating, and don't want to waste another 5 years on the wrong person.

03.

Have done therapy, read all the books, tried everything and are still stuck choosing emotionally unavailable partners or being emotionally unavailable themselves.

04.

Can attract dates easily but keep ending up with people who are all chemistry and no substance, or who can't handle conflict, commitment, or consistency.

05.

Are anxious attachers, avoidants, people-pleasers, over-givers, conflict-avoiders, perfectionists, you name it. They know something's off but don't know how to fix it.

06.

Range from 35 to 65+ years old.

Single, divorced, never married. From Chicago to Houston to Iowa City and beyond.

If you're willing to examine your own patterns (not just blame your exes), and you're genuinely ready for a healthy relationship, there's a 100% chance we can help.

My Approach

I don't do generic advice.

I'm not here to tell you to "love yourself first" or "just set boundaries." You've heard that. It didn't work because no one showed you how.

I focus on attachment styles and nervous system regulation.

Because your dating problems aren't about not knowing what a red flag is. They're about your body being wired to feel attracted to unavailability because that's what felt familiar growing up.

I walk the talk.

I'm single. I'm dating. I'm applying these exact tools in my own life right now. I'm not some married coach theorizing about dating, I'm in the arena with you.

I teach frameworks, not fluff.

The 5 E's. Non-Violent Communication. The Curiosity Triangle vs. Drama Triangle. "If it's hysterical, it's historical." These aren't Instagram quotes—they're behavior-change tools.

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My Credentials

I've helped 100+ professionals

break free from toxic patterns

My BEAM program offers coaching, community, and real tools that will help you quickly:

Certified Relationship Coach Professional training in relationship dynamics, attachment theory, and behavior change.

12 Years in Recovery Programs Deep understanding of codependency, boundaries, and breaking compulsive patterns

Non-Violent Communication Practitioner One of the few coaches who teaches (and practices) healthy conflict resolution

Neuroscience Certification (In Progress) Understanding how trauma and attachment patterns live in the nervous system and how to rewire them

Personal Transformation
Most importantly: I've lived this. I've done the work. I've transformed from an emotionally unavailable people-pleaser to someone who can show up authentically in healthy relationships.

Want my recommendation on where to start?

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Oh, by the way...

My Philosophy

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Compatibility cannot be forced or negotiated, it must naturally exist.

You can't love someone into emotional availability. You can't communicate your way into chemistry that isn't there. Stop trying to make it work with people who fundamentally aren't aligned with you.

Triggers don't disappear with "the right person" – they get louder.

Healthy relationships require you to work through your triggers, not avoid them. The right person doesn't magically make your patterns disappear, they create safety for you to heal them.

Asking for help is a relationship skill, not a weakness.

If you're used to doing everything alone, you're blocking intimacy. Vulnerability creates connection. Independence without interdependence is just avoidance.

Emotional availability starts with you.

You'll keep attracting emotionally unavailable people until you become emotionally available yourself. It's not about "finding the right person", it's about becoming the right person.

Author and co-author of these books:

This Too Shall Pass:

A Young Woman’s Recovery from Eating Disorders, Addictions, and Codependency Kindle Edition

TO LOVE HERSELF, EVERY WOMAN MUST LEARN TO BE BY HERSELF.

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She Leads We Rise:

She Leads We Rise: How Female Leaders Are Driving Global Transformation

Whether you are an aspiring leader, a seasoned professional, or someone passionate about the evolving landscape of female leadership, "She Leads, We Rise" offers inspiration, wisdom, and a roadmap for driving transformation.